solas : solas
for connection & clarity through change
for couples
being us
The Full Journey
A private, seven-step programme for couples who have built a good life together — and are ready to actually feel alive in it again.
30 minutes · no commitment · no performance
is this you?
You run things well.
You always have
You are proactive, high-functioning, disciplined. When something matters to you, you invest in it properly. Which is exactly why it bothers you that this one thing — the relationship that underpins everything else — keeps getting pushed to later.
Not because you don't care. Because you do.And you refuse to accept "good enough" in any other area of your life.
"We're fine. But fine feels… flat."
"We're becoming roommates who love each other."
"I can run a company. I cannot seem to fix this."
"I don't want to wait until it's a real crisis."
the real fear
Not divorce.
Something quieter.
You always have.
You are proactive, high-functioning, disciplined. When something matters to you, you invest in it properly. Which is exactly why it bothers you that this one thing — the relationship that underpins everything else — keeps getting pushed to later.
"We're going to wake up in five years and realise we missed our own life together."
Not the relationship ending. The relationship continuing — but quietly, slowly, becoming something smaller than it was supposed to be. That is the thing worth acting on now.
The couples who wait do eventually act — but from a much harder place. You are in the window where it costs the least and delivers the most.
why this works
Research-backed.
Personally held.
| why | structure |
|---|---|
| Certified | Gottman 7 Principles Leader — trained by the Gottman Institute. The research predicts with 90%+ accuracy which couples will thrive. Jitesh uses this framework because it works, not because it sounds good. |
| Approach | Research frameworks + holistic, embodied experience. Not one or the other. Both. |
| Private | One couple at a time. Your dates, your villa, your programme. Jitesh is selective about who he works with. |
"The outcome was clear, leaving me really excited to plan the next steps together with my partner. It was a beautiful space, a chance to step out of daily life, in a truly special location."
Melanie, Germany & Bali
"we were able to meet each other again in new ways."
Emilie, France & Bali
The couples who work best with Jitesh are almost always the ones who say "we're not broken." Because they're starting from strength — and that's exactly where the deepest work happens.
Jitesh has navigated the quiet drift himself. He built Being Us because he knew what could help — and couldn't find it anywhere else. That's a different kind of authority than a certification.
the programme
Seven steps.
One couple. Built around you.
| Step | Details | Objective |
|---|---|---|
| 1. Love Mapping | 60 min. Jitesh Virtual. Week 1 | You stop guessing. You actually know each other's world right now. |
| 2. Your Affection Style | 60 min. Jitesh Virtual. Week 2 | Affection lands. Attempts to connect stop missing. |
| 3. Conflict + Repair | 60 min. Jitesh Virtual. Week 3 | Arguments de-escalate. Repair happens in hours, not days. |
| 4. Human Design | 60 min. Jitesh Virtual. Week 4 | You understand what drives each other at the deepest level. |
| 5. Immersive Retreat | In person. Bali. 3 days. All Inclusive | Everything opens. You rediscover each other away from ordinary life. |
| 6. Shared Meaning & Reflection | 60 min. Jitesh Virtual. Week 2-4 post-retreat | The learnings become daily habits, not a fading memory. |
| 7. Catch Up & Reflection | 60 min. Jitesh Virtual. 2 months post-retreat | ou reset, celebrate progress, and keep moving forward. |
Every session is private. Just you, your partner, and Jitesh. No groups. No shared circles. Strangers.
what changes
Before & after.
| BEFORE | AFTER |
|---|---|
| "We're fine" — but fine feels flat | Genuine connection — not performed, not managed |
| Attempts at affection that miss or go unnoticed | Knowing exactly how your partner receives love |
| Living alongside each other, not inside each other's world | Real knowledge of who your partner is right now |
| A quiet worry that the gap will keep widenings | Clarity, tools, and a shared vision you both believe in |
| Insights that fade when you get back home | Embedded practices that keep working after Bali |
investment
One couple.
Everything included.
being us - the full journey
USD $7,500
per couple · 50% on booking · 50% four weeks before retreat · flights not included.
4 weeks pre-work (virtual)
3-night private villa, Ubud
All meals & transfers
5 facilitated retreat experiences
2 post-retreat sessions
What does another year of quietly drifting cost you? Not in money — in the relationship itself.
investment
USD $7,500 per couple
Everything included.
What's included in full:4 weeks pre-work (4 × 60-min virtual sessions) · 3-night private villa, Ubud · All meals & beverages · 5 facilitated retreat experiences (all specialist fees) · Airport transfers both ways · 2 post-retreat integration sessionsComparable private couples retreats — without the research methodology, the pre-work, or the follow-through — run $8,000–15,000 for the venue alone. Being Us is the complete programme. Not a nice weekend with conversation exercises bolted on.50% on booking · 50% four weeks before retreat · Flights not included
You already know
whether you're ready.
The discovery call is 30 minutes. Private. No performance. Jitesh will tell you honestly if this is right for you — and if it isn't, he'll say so.
for leaders
finding ground
The Clarity Program for Leaders
Individual · USD $8,500 | Corporate teams · from USD $28,000 | Prosci ADKAR · Gottman · 20 yrs change practice
A private seven-step programme for executives navigating change — in their organisations, their careers, or themselves. Designed for leaders who need clarity, not more content.
is this you?
You lead well.
You always have.
You have spent years — whether that's eight or twenty-five — in rooms where the stakes were high and the decisions were yours. Right now, something is shifting. And the tools that made you successful haven't failed you. But some of what's being asked of you now isn't a tools problem.
It's a clarity problem. A direction problem. A who-am-I-leading-from problem.
"I've helped hundreds of people through change. I'm not sure anyone is helping me through mine."
"I've been optimising for performance so long I've lost track of what I actually want."
"I keep telling my team to sit with ambiguity. I'm not sure I'm taking my own advice."
"When this is done, I want to know I led it with integrity — not just efficiency."
Leaders who navigate change for a living are often the last to create space for their own. Finding Ground is that space.
The cost of leading without clarity
It shows up quietly.But it compounds.
Ambiguity at the top is not contained at the top. It moves — into teams, into culture, into the execution of the transformation you are supposed to be leading.|The research is unambiguous: the single biggest predictor of transformation failure is not a flawed plan. It is a leadership team that hasn't genuinely committed to the destination
For the corporate buyer: this is not an HR initiative. It is a transformation risk-reducer.The cost of a senior leader navigating change without clarity is delayed decisions, a team that can't read the signal, and a programme that drifts. Finding Ground is what you invest in before that cost compounds — not after you're already paying it.
"I get to the other side of this — and I still don't know what I want the next chapter to be."The window for addressing this from a position of strength is shorter than it feels. You are in it now.
Why Jitesh. Why this works.
20 years inside
the change.
| Who | What |
|---|---|
| Certified | Prosci ADKAR Change Management Practitioner · Prince2 · APM · Gottman 7 Principles Leader |
| Clients | Chanel, Freshfields Bruckhaus Deringer, Norton Rose Fulbright, Chanel, NHS England |
| Seniority | Advised and facilitated at C-suite and executive board level across global programmes |
| Approach | Research frameworks + holistic, embodied experience. He doesn't need the context of your world explained. He has spent 20 years in it. |
"His work was central to transforming the way the business worked"
International Head of Knowledge for Finance, Project and Restructuring - Top 3 highest grossing Law Firm
"His strengths lie understanding what you want and need in order to adapt and embrace change."
CEO- London Fashion House
the programme
Seven steps.
Private. Sequenced with precision.
| Step | details | objectives |
|---|---|---|
| 1. Mapping the Change | Virtual/ In-Person · Week 1 | You understand what is actually being asked of you — beyond the slide deck. |
| 2. The Leader in the Change | Virtual/ In-Person · Week 2 | You separate who you are from the role you are playing. Critical distinction. |
| 3 Resistance & Conviction | Virtual/ In-person · Week 3 | You locate your own resistance — and distinguish signal from noise. |
| 4 Human Design for Leaders | Virtual/ In-person · Specialist · Week 4 (or leadership archetype alternative) | Your energy architecture. How you are designed to lead, decide, and recover. |
| 5 Immersive Retreat — Bali, Ubud | In-person · 3 days · Fully private · All inclusive | Private villa · all meals · transfers · facilitated experiences. The work goes to a level it cannot reach in a Zoom call. |
| 6 Integration Session | Virtual/ In-person · 2–4 weeks post-retreat | Insights translated into specific forward moves for your actual situation. |
| 7 Recommitment & Review | Virtual/ In-person · 2 months post-retreat | Where are you now. What has shifted. What do you lead from here. |
Every session private. Just you and Jitesh. No cohort. No group dynamic. No performance for an audience.
what changes
Before & after.
| BEFORE | AFTER |
|---|---|
| Carrying the change rather than leading it | Leading from a clear, committed place |
| Identity blurred into role | Who you are — separate from what you do |
| Unresolved resistance radiating to your team | Resistance located and worked with, not around |
| Decisions from a shifting frame | Decisions from a centred, stable place |
| Performing confidence while managing ambiguity | Authentic authority others can feel |
investment
Individual & corporate.
Transparent pricing.
| individual | corporate |
|---|---|
| USD $7,500 | from $28,000 |
| One leader · all inclusive · fully private | Up to 6 leaders · shared retreat · individual pre/post work · full NDA |
50% on booking · 50% four weeks before retreat · flights not included · corporate invoicing available
How it compares:Senior executive coaching retainer (6 months): $15,000–30,000 — performance-focused, no immersive component. Leadership offsite for 6 leaders (venue, facilitator, travel): $20,000–45,000 — 1–2 days, no individual pre/post work. Finding Ground individual: $8,500 all-in — 30+ hours of direct facilitation, pre-work, retreat, integration, follow-through.
You are not paying for a venue and some exercises. You are paying for 20 years of change practice, delivered in the only format that can actually reach the depth this work requires.
If you genuinely don't have the windows for this programme, the transformation you are trying to lead is probably already at risk for the same reason.
You already know
whether you need this.
You've known for a while. The discovery call is 30 minutes. Private. Jitesh will tell you honestly if this is right for your situation — and if it isn't, he'll say so.
jitesh patel
Jitesh Patel is the founder of Solas:Solas, a private practice based in Ubud, Bali.
His work sits at point of two things that look different on the surface but share the same root: the relationships we have with the people we love, and the relationship we have with ourselves when the pressure is on.For couples, Jitesh creates genuinely private, beautifully held experiences — retreats and programmes grounded in Gottman research — where two people can slow down, understand each other more clearly, and find their way back to the connection that made them choose each other in the first place. Not crisis intervention. Not therapy. Something more like an investment in what already matters.For leaders and executives, he brings something rarer: 20 years of working inside complex, high-stakes change — at Chanel, Top-tier Law Firm such as Freshfields Bruckhaus Deringer and Norton Rose Fulbright and others — combined with the ability to create space that most executive environments never offer. Space to think. To locate the resistance. To separate the role from the person inside it.He is a certified Gottman 7 Principles Leader and a Prosci ADKAR-accredited change management practitioner.He left corporate life to build something he couldn't find anywhere else. The work he does now is the work he wishes had existed then.